Our August theme on Wit & Delight is about planting seeds—planning and organizing our lives round values we wish to foster, objectives we wish to meet, and experiences we wish to prioritize. In that spirit, I wished to share a have a look at my very own private objectives for the rest of 2022.
My private objectives for the remainder of the 12 months are all about being actually intentional with my vitality and the selections I’m making for myself.
I hope this put up encourages you to take a second for reflection too. What would you like out of the remainder of your 12 months?
1. Dive again into work with renewed focus.
I’ve a renewed sort of vitality for the work I’m doing on Wit & Delight nowadays and wish to put extra of myself into it. My greatest aim is to dive again into work with the identical sort of focus I used to be capable of give earlier than I had children. What this implies for me is exhibiting up every single day, specializing in precedence initiatives, and eradicating extra duties that aren’t as necessary.
I do know myself and my work targets rather a lot higher than I used to, and time with our youngsters is a bit more versatile now than it as soon as was. We’re hoping to have an after-school sitter for the youngsters this fall too so I can as soon as once more have a real 9-5 schedule devoted to working.
2. Work *with* my mind—not towards it.
To assist keep away from burnout, I wish to proceed to plan my days round how my mind operates finest. I’ve realized my ADHD mind isn’t usually happy with gentle or long-term rewards, like checking steady duties off a listing or engaged on a prolonged undertaking. As a substitute, it seeks out fast dopamine hits, which regularly come within the type of distractions from the work I must be doing.
As a substitute of preventing so onerous towards this actuality, I’ve tried to plan my schedule in ways in which nonetheless stimulate my mind, constructing in time for selection and artistic duties all through my days and weeks. Having an inherently artistic job helps as a result of I get these dopamine hits from artistic challenges, play, and discovery, that are all part of my job to some extent.
In the end, this shift is about focusing much less on issues I can’t totally management—much less “boiling the ocean”—and extra on the easy act of constructing issues, sharing issues, and discovering moments of humor and delight by means of all of it.
I’m realizing that there’s a lot on the market to get pleasure from after I can differentiate between what’s really necessary to me and what’s not.
3. Be actually intentional with money and time.
Trying again on the previous few months of the spending freeze, I’ve realized that I tend to attempt to discover fast fixes for issues. Often, these fixes come within the type of spending cash or packing my calendar, typically in situations when neither is important. When accomplished in extra, each of this stuff contribute to burnout in my life.
For me, being intentional with money and time means going slower in relation to making selections. It additionally means figuring out that saying sure to a process, exercise, or buy received’t really feel mentally heavy when it’s “proper” and aligned with my values. As I proceed this course of, there’ll hopefully be extra money and time spent on issues that I actually get pleasure from. I’m realizing that there’s a lot on the market to get pleasure from after I can differentiate between what’s really necessary to me and what’s not.
All of those objectives include one caveat: In instances after I don’t comply with by means of on them, I received’t beat myself up for it. I used to suppose that if I beat myself up for any given “failure,” I’d really feel motivated to do higher subsequent time. That sort of mindset would solely (unsurprisingly, on reflection) push me additional down right into a spiral. Because it seems, it’s a lot simpler to get again on monitor after I’m not punishing myself for not being excellent.